We are in an unprecedented time and to be honest I never even thought I would be single again let alone trying to find love during a pandemic! If someone had asked me 5 years ago where I thought I would be in 2020 it certainly wouldnt be in the middle of both world and life changing events!
All of the usual routes or opportunities to meet someone are out of the question. Pubs and bars are closed, shops are just now starting to open again, masks are to be worn and to be honest who can send sexy vibes wearing a half face covering! The two meter distance between people makes those initial introductions hard and that awkward first conversation/questions would be made even worse with covid rules to follow.
So, how do you go about dating right now? Now more than ever is where online dating comes into play. There are a wide range of dating sites depending on what you are looking for and with the ability to video chat and Skype/Zoom etc there is no reason why you can’t strike up those initial conversations. Personally I really struggle with making the initial moves, I am an old fashioned girl who loved it when a man makes the first move – I know that isn’t very PC in this day and age but at my age (45) I want to feel like someone is interested in me, although I have to admit my skin is getting thicker and I take those who don’t respond with a pinch of ‘their loss’ salt now.
What I have found lately with online dating sites is that there are some that are filled with bored married people looking for a little fun during lockdown. This is where you need to do your homework, chose a decent site with a good reputation like we love dates. We have all heard horror stories and right now you could be entering into the unknown even more than usual. Do some research and don’t agree to meet someone unless you are sure motives are clear. There are plenty of options when it comes to getting to know each other online first, chat rooms, Whats App, messenger, zoom, skype and so much more. You can go from talking and messaging to making sure the attraction is there through video before making that leap to meet each other personally. The only real thing to consider is how many others have they, and yourself, been in touch with.
As the world eases out of lockdown things will become a little easier, meeting for coffee will be on the cards again or even just heading out for a walk somewhere should be fine. If you are not exactly a social butterfly and rarely see anyone anyway the chances are you will be fine and keep it in mind to be cautious about where you meet up etc. I really do think things have changed considerably for the foreseeable future and it is going to be a little strange trying to adapt but that is what we are going to have to do. The main thing to keep in mind is don’t do anything you don’t want to, if you feel uncomfortable speak up, now more than ever it isn’t just the prospect of meeting someone that needs considering, its your health too.
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