Lack of Communication Leads to Distrust
If you are in a relationship, it is hard to trust your partner if they don’t communicate with you. You will immediately think that they are hiding something from you, and that they are up to no good. This is especially true, if you ask where they are going, and they refuse to respond. Although some communication breakdowns can be misunderstandings, a lot of the time they can make or break a relationship.
When you bond with someone, you want to know what they are doing just as you would. When people fail to communicate, they build up tension in a relationship that leads to distrust. The distrust breaks the very bedrock of the relationship.
Counselling is Proof of Communication Needs
People are often able to save their marriages through counselling sessions that force them to communicate. Counselling sessions can be a great way to get an independent opinion of who is stressing the relationship and what can be done to solve it. Working out problems is a part of life. No one said that relationships would be easy. This is especially true in today’s modern world where many of our social friends are distant and spend little actual time with us. Everyone is so busy that they are more connected through online networking than they are in real life.
Counseling and talking openly about issues helps people figure out if the issues stressing them are emotional or logical. A lot of the stressors in a relationship are based upon how someone is acting. Partners may act strangely because they suddenly distrust you.
Subjects to Discuss
A lot of the fighting in a relationship is over sexual dissatisfaction and money. After all, if you are not looking for a stable partner or an excellent lover, then why bother starting a relationship. You can make a closer friend who shares your interests. It is important to talk about your sexual preferences and your intimacy issues, you don’t want to enter into a relationship and find out they have some kink that you simply could not stand or tolerate, this article is a good read.
Relationships often suffer from a greater level of incontinence because there are no children to hold the relationship together after the sexual interest has reached its peak. Both myself and my soon to be ex husband have said that if it wasn’t for the children we probably would have split years ago. They are a glue that keeps you together but it does get to a point where you need to do what is best for you. Those children fly the nest and then you are faced with the realisation that your relationship had changed. Although finances can still come into play or constructive parental obligations with previous children, these are weaker bonds than blood offspring.
For these reasons, it is important for any couples to speak frankly about financial needs, tension over finances, tension over parenting children, and everything that is breaking them apart. In many cases, there is some new embarrassing event that has triggered the downfall, which continues to escalate silently in the mind of one partner.
XOXO
Debbie
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