Let’s be real: mom life is beautiful, chaotic, and more exhausting than a workout class I never signed up for. Some days, I feel like I’m in a three-ring circus, juggling tasks with the grace of a caffeinated octopus. I’m wrangling tiny humans, cooking, cleaning, and remembering a hundred other things—often with no time for myself. But somewhere between the diaper changes and bedtime stories, I have found little ways to keep my sanity intact. Here’s what works for me:
1. Comfort Clothes: My Uniform of Sanity
The second I cross that door threshold, my jeans are history. I’m talking about slipping into leggings and an oversized hoodie, embracing comfort like it’s a long-lost friend. Nothing says, “I’m off duty!” like my favorite pair of sweats and or pajamas that’s practically a second skin. In also love wearing my moisture-wicking nightgowns from Cool-Jams because they are great for hut summer nights where you just want to feel cool.
I sometimes pair this comfort ensemble with a glass of wine (if I’m feeling fancy) or a mug of herbal tea that’s about as zen as I get these days. Honestly, there’s a simple pleasure in enjoying a treat that no one else is asking me to share.
2. Books: My Passport to Anywhere But Here
If I have to hear “Mom, mom, mom” one more time, I might just disappear into the pages of a novel and not come back! Losing myself in a good book—whether it’s a juicy mystery or some dystopian fantasy—gives my mind a mini-vacation. It’s like hitting the “pause” button on the mental playlist of to-do lists and snack requests.
So, when I get the chance, I curl up in my reading corner, wrapped in a blanket, and ignore the world for twenty blissful minutes. And if someone interrupts me, they better be holding chocolate or offering a nap.
3. Self-Care: The Bare Minimum That Feels Like Luxury
I don’t have time for a full spa day, but a hot bath after the kids are asleep? Now that’s a game-changer. A few drops of lavender essential oil, a candle (okay, maybe two), and some calming music, and I’m instantly transported to a state of “mom zen.”
My skincare routine has become sacred territory. I slap on a face mask like it’s a suit of armor and indulge in a few minutes of uninterrupted self-love. For those few moments, it’s just me and my glow. And yes, that glow might also be exhaustion, but I’ll take what I can get!
4. Walks Alone: My Mini Escape Plan
Sometimes, the house feels like it’s closing in on me (maybe because of the endless toy clutter?), so I step outside for a quick walk. Just me, the fresh air, and a few quiet moments where I’m not answering anyone’s questions. It’s basically therapy without the co-pay.
I leave my phone behind, which might sound impossible, but trust me, it’s a game-changer. Just a short stroll through the neighborhood helps me clear my head and appreciate the quiet—even if I’m thinking, “I should really be cleaning the kitchen.”
5. Creative Hobbies: A Judgement-Free Zone
Baking cookies that may or may not look like Pinterest fails? Check. Doodling with no artistic merit whatsoever? Check. These little creative hobbies are all about having fun and forgetting that I have to be “on” all the time.
There’s no pressure to make something impressive. It’s just me, doing something that doesn’t involve wiping noses or cleaning up spills. And, if the cookies turn out decent, they get eaten in a heartbeat—bonus points if I don’t have to share them.
6. Meditation: Or, Me Trying to Breathe Without Screaming
On those extra chaotic days, I try to squeeze in five minutes of deep breathing. Picture this: me sitting on the couch, eyes closed, taking deep breaths while my toddler tests the acoustic properties of their favorite pot and pan. Not exactly serene, but it’s progress!
Sometimes I’ll use an app with a guided meditation because, let’s be honest, I need all the help I can get. And you know what? Even just five minutes of focusing on my breathing can make a huge difference in keeping me grounded and calm—well, calm-ish.
7. The Golden Hour of TV Bingeing
Sometimes, the only thing that will unwind me is a trashy reality show or a rom-com I’ve watched ten times. No guilt, no shame—just me, a cozy blanket, and the satisfaction of knowing that, for once, I’m not the one solving everyone’s problems.
There’s something wonderfully mind-numbing about these shows. They don’t ask me to think, and I don’t have to explain any plot twists to little ears. Occasionally, I can get my partner on board, and we’ll have an impromptu movie night, laughing at the ridiculousness and savoring the rare moment of calm.
Find What Works for You—Sanity Breaks Are a Necessity!
At the end of the day, every mom has her own version of recharging, and we all deserve a few moments that are just for us. It doesn’t have to be elaborate, but it does have to happen. Whether it’s a quiet moment with a book, a bubble bath, or laughing at reality TV, taking a few minutes for yourself is a must.
