Week seven of Spell Jar Season, and we’re diving into the most transformative jar I’ll ever share with you. October’s third week brings us to the heart of autumn’s transformational energy – that time when nature shows us how beautiful it can be to let go, change, and rise renewed. For every mother who has felt broken by the challenges of life, this jar is your reminder: you are not destroyed, you are being reborn.
After twenty years of blogging, raising six children, and weathering countless seasons of family life, I’ve learned that motherhood is one long cycle of death and rebirth. The woman you were before children? She transforms. The mother you thought you’d be? She evolves. Every stage of parenting asks you to release who you were and rise as someone new.
The Phoenix Rising Jar isn’t about avoiding the fire – it’s about learning to see the flames as transformation rather than destruction.
Why Every Mother Needs Phoenix Energy
Here’s what no one tells you about motherhood: it will break you open in the most beautiful and terrifying ways. You’ll face moments when you don’t recognize yourself. Times when your old coping mechanisms stop working. Seasons when everything you thought you knew about parenting gets turned upside down.
I’ve been there. The early years of blogging when I questioned whether I had anything valuable to say. The moments when I looked in the mirror and didn’t recognize the exhausted woman staring back.
But here’s what I’ve discovered: those breaking-open moments aren’t endings. They’re beginnings. They’re the fire that burns away what no longer serves so that something stronger, wiser, and more authentic can emerge.
You are not falling apart. You are falling together in a new way.
The Phoenix Mythology for Modern Mothers
The phoenix, that mythical bird that burns itself to ashes only to rise renewed, isn’t just ancient folklore – it’s the perfect metaphor for motherhood. We don’t just become mothers once. We become mothers again and again, rising from the ashes of who we used to be.
The woman who birthed her first child and thought she had motherhood figured out? She burns away when the second child arrives with completely different needs. The mother who mastered toddlerhood? She transforms again when her children become teenagers. The blogger who started with simple family posts? She evolves when she discovers her voice in witchy content and spell jars.
Each transformation feels like destruction in the moment. But from the ashes rises a woman who is more herself than she’s ever been.
The Phoenix Rising Jar: What You’ll Need
Ingredients:
- 1 heat-resistant glass jar (mason jars work perfectly)
- 1 piece of carnelian (courage and personal power)
- 1 piece of garnet (strength and regeneration)
- 2 tablespoons dried cinnamon (transformation and success)
- 1 tablespoon dried ginger (fiery energy and new beginnings)
- Small handful of sunflower petals (rebirth and new life)
- 1 red or orange candle (fire energy and transformation)
- Small piece of paper and pen
- Phoenix feather (or any red/orange feather, or even a small red ribbon)
- Optional: a small piece of charcoal (representing what you’re rising from)
The Transformational Power Behind Each Element:
- Carnelian: Known as the stone of courage, it helps you embrace change and step into your power
- Garnet: Associated with regeneration and the life force that helps you rise from difficult times
- Cinnamon: A fire spice that represents transformation, success, and the sweetness that comes after struggle
- Ginger: Brings fiery energy for new beginnings and the courage to start over
- Sunflower petals: Symbols of rebirth, always turning toward the light even in darkness
Creating Your Phoenix Rising Jar: The Ritual
Step 1: Acknowledge What’s Burning Away Before you begin, write on your paper what you’re ready to release. Maybe it’s “The need to be a perfect mother” or “Fear of not being enough” or “The version of myself that plays small.” Be specific about what needs to burn away for your new self to emerge.
Step 2: Honor the Fire Light your candle and hold your paper near (not in) the flame. Speak to the fire: “I release what no longer serves me. I trust the process of transformation. I am ready to rise renewed.” If you feel called to safely burn the paper (in a fireproof bowl), do so. Otherwise, simply hold the intention.
Step 3: Layer Your Rebirth Start with the charcoal at the bottom (if using) – representing what you’re rising from. Add your ashes or burned paper. Layer the ginger for new beginnings, then the cinnamon for sweet transformation. Add the sunflower petals while visualizing yourself turning toward the light. Top with your stones – your courage and regenerative power.
Step 4: Seal Your Phoenix Energy Place the feather or ribbon on top – your phoenix wings. Close the jar and hold it near your heart. Speak your rebirth intention: “From the ashes of who I was, I rise as who I’m meant to be. I embrace transformation. I trust my strength. I am reborn.”
Step 5: Place for Daily Empowerment This jar belongs somewhere you’ll see it during challenging moments – perhaps your workspace, kitchen counter, or bedroom dresser. It’s your daily reminder that you have the power to rise from anything.
The Practical Magic: How Phoenix Energy Changes Everything
This jar isn’t about avoiding difficulties – it’s about changing your relationship with them. Since creating my first Phoenix Rising Jar, I’ve noticed:
- More resilience during challenging parenting phases
- Ability to see setbacks as setups for comebacks
- Confidence to reinvent myself when old approaches stop working
- Trust in my ability to rise stronger from difficult seasons
The jar doesn’t prevent the fire – it reminds you that you’re designed to rise from it.
Teaching Children About Resilience
This is a powerful jar to discuss with older children (10+) because it teaches them that difficulty isn’t the end of the story – it’s often the beginning of something better. Let them create their own small phoenix jars for challenges they’re facing.
The conversation becomes about:
- Understanding that feeling “broken” sometimes is part of growing
- Learning that they have the strength to overcome difficulties
- Recognizing that setbacks can lead to comebacks
- Trusting their ability to reinvent themselves when needed
Common Phoenix Moments in Motherhood
The Identity Crisis: When you realize the mother you thought you’d be isn’t who you actually are – and that’s okay.
The Parenting Pivot: When your tried-and-true methods stop working and you need to find new approaches.
The Relationship Renewal: When partnerships need to be rebuilt on new foundations after children change everything.
The Self-Rediscovery: When you realize you’ve lost yourself in motherhood and need to rise as an integrated version of who you are now.
The October Transformation Energy
Creating this jar during October’s transformational season taps into powerful natural energy. This is when nature shows us how beautiful it can be to let go – the trees releasing their leaves in brilliant displays of color before entering their dormant phase.
Your phoenix moments might not be as visually stunning as autumn leaves, but they’re just as necessary and just as beautiful in their own way.
When the Fire Feels Too Hot
Sometimes the transformation process feels overwhelming. The challenges seem too big, the changes too scary, the fire too intense. In these moments, remember:
- The phoenix doesn’t rise in spite of the fire – it rises because of it
- Transformation is rarely comfortable, but it’s always purposeful
- You don’t have to have it all figured out – you just have to keep rising
- Every mother before you has walked through her own fires and emerged stronger
Your Phoenix Challenge
This week, I challenge you to identify one area of your life that’s calling for transformation. Maybe it’s your approach to work-life balance. Maybe it’s healing from a difficult season. Maybe it’s stepping into a bigger version of yourself professionally.
Create your Phoenix Rising Jar, then take one brave action toward your transformation. Phoenix energy isn’t passive – it requires you to actively participate in your own rebirth.
Looking Ahead
Next Monday, we’ll create our final October jar – the Trick or Treat Safety Jar – perfect for Halloween night protection. Because sometimes the most phoenix-like thing you can do is fiercely protect the family you’ve risen to serve.
What version of yourself is ready to burn away so that a stronger, wiser, more authentic you can emerge? What would you do differently if you truly believed you had the power to rise from any challenge? What phoenix is waiting to spread her wings in your life?
Remember: you are not broken. You are breaking open. You are not falling apart. You are falling together in a new, more beautiful way.
The fire that feels like it’s destroying you? It’s actually revealing the unbreakable core of who you really are.
Rise, mama. Rise like the phoenix you’ve always been.
The ashes are not your ending – they’re your beginning.
Next Monday: The Trick or Treat Safety Jar – because protecting our little goblins is the ultimate act of phoenix mothering.
Share this post with a friend who needs to remember her phoenix power. Tag me @countryheartandhome if you create your Phoenix Rising Jar – there’s something powerful about seeing these transformation intentions shared across social media.
