Since I came out of the broom closet I have often been asked for advice on ‘spells’ or rituals that can help with different situations. I thought that by collating them all in one place, here, it would be a great idea to just point people in one direction.
First up is a self love jar for giving yourself confidence or a little boost. There are so many times when I am feeling down or a little bleugh and actually sitting and focusing on myself while doing this ritual brings out things I forgot were there. Its about positive intentions and putting out into the universe what you want to receive back.
Setting The Scene
Like anything else, it is pointless trying to create a self love spell jar or any other jar come to that, if you are in a negative frame of mind. Remember what you put out you get back! Pop on some of your favourite music, dance around for a while and do something you enjoy to get yourself in a good mood.
Once you are in the right frame of mind gather all of the ingredients below (all are optional and you really should choose items that either have meaning for your or feel right) I am a strong believer in following your instinct so the whole jar is going to be different from person to person. For example you may want to pop in some honey for sweetness instead of sugar, certain scents bring back memories of when you were in a good place so add those flower petals or a couple of drops of perfume, if you love your hair add a snip of hair cuttings etc.
Bear in mind this is what I put in my jar and I will explain each ingredient as I go. Your jar is for you alone so go with what feels right at the time, my jars change over time depending on what I am focusing on.
Glass Jar with lid
Brown sugar – to add a little sweetness (I think we all need to be a little sweeter to ourselves)
Rose petals – not only good for self love but attracting things to you and beauty spells too.
Pink Himalayan Salt – Salt is known for its protective and purifying nature
Lavender – calming and is great for heightening awareness. Also to rid anxiety.
Hibiscus Flowers – perfect for attraction and helping with dreams
Rosemary – this is my go to herb for lots of spells and rituals. A perfect substitute for any herb. Stops gossip and is great for the memory.
Sage Leaves – Write your intentions or mantra on the leaves (I am strong, I am beautiful etc)
Cinnamon – perfect for getting rid of negative energy and ‘warming up’ your own power!
Pink Peppercorns – to give yourself a little kick
Rose Quartz – to help open your heart and create feelings of peace.
Pink Candle – To seal the jar.
This is my favourite part. Light some incense and take a few deep breaths before placing all your items into a jar. The size will depend on how powerful you want it or if you want to carry it with you. I have some teeny little jars that pack just as much punch as the larger ones. It is all about the intention you put into it.
As you add each item say either out loud or to yourself what you hope to gain or are wanting from the item.
‘I add this lavender to help ease my anxiety and give me a sense of calm’
With the bay leaves I like to use a permanent marker and write clear directions.
I AM STRONG
I LOVE MY BODY
This sets the intention solidly and you are not asking for permission. The words are declaring that you have got this and it is true!
After all of the items have been added you need to seal the spell. Light the candle and allow the wax to drip down the sides of the jar/bottle to form a wax seal. While still wet I like to place the crystal, in this case rose quartz, into the wax.
Hold the jar in your hands and feel the positivity you just created. Place onto your alter or work desk where you will see it regularly. When you feel the need for a little pick me up, hold it and feel the good vibes flow.