Week three of Spell Jar Season arrives just as September reaches its turning point. The autumn equinox is approaching (September 22nd), and nature is showing us what perfect balance looks like. Equal day and night. The moment when everything hangs in beautiful equilibrium before we tip into the darker half of the year.
As mothers, as creators, as women juggling countless responsibilities, we rarely experience that kind of balance. We’re either rushing through packed days or collapsing exhausted at night. We’re either completely focused on our children or feeling guilty about working on our blogs. We’re either overwhelmed by everything on our plates or bored by routine.
But what if balance isn’t about perfect equilibrium? What if it’s about finding harmony within the chaos – creating pockets of peace that sustain us through the beautiful madness of family life?
Why Balance Feels Impossible (And Why That’s Normal)
After twenty years of blogging while raising six children (now down to homeschooling one), I’ve learned something crucial: the Instagram version of balance doesn’t exist. You know the one – where the house is pristine, the children are angelic, the content is perfectly planned, and the mother is serenely sipping tea while everything flows effortlessly around her.
Real balance looks different. It’s writing a blog post while dinner simmers. It’s letting the laundry wait because you’re having an important conversation with your teenager. It’s saying no to a sponsored post opportunity because your family needs you present that week.
Real balance is about making conscious choices about where your energy goes, rather than letting life happen to you.
The Harmony vs. Balance Revelation
Here’s what changed everything for me: I stopped trying to balance everything perfectly and started seeking harmony instead.
Balance suggests everything gets equal weight, equal time, equal attention. But that’s not how life works. Some seasons require more focus on family. Others call for business growth. Some days are about creating content, others about rest and restoration.
Harmony is different. It’s about all the different parts of your life working together, even when they’re not perfectly balanced. It’s the difference between a tightrope walker (precarious balance) and a symphony (beautiful harmony despite different instruments playing different parts).
The Balance & Harmony Jar: What You’ll Need
Ingredients:
- 1 clear glass jar with lid
- 1 piece of rose quartz (heart-centered harmony)
- 1 piece of amethyst (mental clarity and peace)
- 2 tablespoons dried lavender (calm and relaxation)
- 1 tablespoon dried chamomile (soothing energy)
- Small handful of clear quartz chips (amplification and clarity)
- 1 pink or white candle
- Small piece of paper and pen
- Optional: a few drops of lavender essential oil
The Energy Behind Each Element:
- Rose quartz: The stone of unconditional love – including love for yourself when you’re not perfect
- Amethyst: Known for bringing mental clarity and helping you see situations from a higher perspective
- Lavender: Nature’s stress reliever. Even the scent can lower cortisol levels
- Chamomile: Gentle, soothing energy that helps you approach challenges with calm
- Clear quartz: Amplifies the energy of everything around it and brings clarity to confused situations
Creating Your Harmony Jar: The Ritual
Step 1: Identify Your Harmony Goal Before you begin, write down what harmony looks like for you right now. Not perfect balance, but workable harmony. Maybe it’s “Peace during busy homeschool mornings” or “Confidence in my content creation schedule” or “Calm energy when family life gets chaotic.”
Step 2: Release the Perfectionism As you add each ingredient, consciously release the pressure to be perfect. “I release the need to have everything figured out” or “I let go of comparing my inside to everyone else’s Instagram.”
Step 3: Layer with Intention Start with the chamomile at the bottom – creating a foundation of gentle energy. Add your written intention. Layer the lavender while taking deep breaths (seriously, the scent alone will start shifting your energy). Add the quartz chips for clarity. Place the rose quartz and amethyst on top – your heart and mind working in harmony.
Step 4: Seal with Self-Compassion Light your candle and hold the jar near the flame. Speak words of kindness to yourself. “I am doing my best with what I have right now” or “I trust myself to make good choices for my family.”
Step 5: Place for Daily Reminders I keep mine on my bedside table where I see it first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Some prefer the kitchen counter or workspace. Choose somewhere you’ll encounter it during your most chaotic moments.
The Practical Magic: How This Supports Real Life
This jar isn’t about creating a perfectly balanced life (impossible). It’s about creating the energetic foundation that helps you navigate imbalance with more grace.
Since creating my first harmony jar, I’ve noticed:
- Less guilt when I choose family time over content creation (or vice versa)
- More confidence in saying no to opportunities that don’t align with our current season
- Better ability to pivot when plans fall apart (which they often do)
- More presence during both work time and family time
The jar doesn’t solve the chaos. But it reminds me that I can choose how I respond to it.
Making It Family-Friendly
This is one of my favorite spell jars to create with older children because it opens conversations about managing stress and making choices. Let them create their own small harmony jars for school stress, friendship drama, or activity overwhelm.
The conversation becomes about recognizing when we’re feeling off-balance and having tools to return to center. These are life skills that serve them far beyond childhood.
What Harmony Looks Like in Different Seasons
Busy Content Creation Seasons: Harmony might mean batch cooking simple meals so you can focus on filming without family stress.
Family-Intensive Periods: Harmony might mean scheduling content in advance so you can be fully present for school events or family needs.
Rest and Restoration Times: Harmony might mean saying no to new opportunities so you can recharge without guilt.
The key is recognizing what season you’re in and adjusting expectations accordingly.
When Life Feels Completely Out of Balance
Sometimes, despite our best intentions, life feels utterly chaotic. The homeschool schedule is overwhelming. The blog feels neglected. The house is a disaster. Everyone needs something different from you.
These are the moments when the harmony jar matters most. Not because it will magically fix everything, but because it reminds you that this too is temporary. That you can choose your response. That imperfect action is better than paralyzed perfectionism.
The Autumn Equinox Connection
Creating this jar near the autumn equinox (September 22nd) taps into powerful seasonal energy. This is nature’s reminder that balance is possible, even if it’s temporary. Day and night find their equilibrium for just a moment before shifting again.
Your life doesn’t need to be perfectly balanced every day. But like the equinox, you can find moments of harmony – brief periods when everything feels aligned before life shifts again.
Refreshing Your Harmony Energy
I refresh this jar whenever life feels particularly chaotic or when we’re entering a new season (literally or figuratively). The old ingredients get scattered in the garden with gratitude, and I create a new jar with updated intentions for whatever harmony looks like in our current reality.
Your Harmony Challenge
This week, I challenge you to identify one area where you’re trying to force perfect balance instead of seeking workable harmony. Maybe it’s your content creation schedule. Maybe it’s family meal planning. Maybe it’s managing homeschool alongside blogging.
What would harmony look like in that area? What would you need to release or adjust to find peace within the imperfection?
Looking Ahead
Next Monday, we’ll create the Family Shield Spell Jar – perfect timing as we head into October’s mystical energy. Because sometimes the most harmonious thing we can do is create strong boundaries around our family’s peace and energy.
What does harmony look like in your current season of life? What would you need to release to find peace within your beautiful chaos?
Remember: you don’t need to have it all figured out. You don’t need to be perfectly balanced. You just need to keep choosing love, keep choosing presence, and keep trusting that you’re exactly where you need to be.
The equinox reminds us that even nature doesn’t stay perfectly balanced. But in the shifting, in the changing, in the constant dance between light and dark – there’s profound beauty.
Your life is that dance. And it’s more beautiful than you know.
Next Monday: The Family Shield Spell Jar – because protecting your family’s energy is the ultimate act of love.
Share this post with a friend who’s trying to balance it all. Tag me @countryheartandhome if you create your harmony spell jar – I love seeing how this magic unfolds in different homes. ✨
