Common relationship problems can usually be split down into a few simple categories. Trust, family, substance abuse/addiction, changing values/life changing events (birth/death etc).
Family
You are marrying one person but they may come with a whole family of issues, there is nothing to say that you are going to get on with each and every member of their family. Or friends come to that matter either. Do you want to get involved in family drama or are you the kind of person who is more private and doesn’t want ‘extended’ family to make their presence noticed.
Substance Abuse/Addiction
What can start out as a simple habit can often turn into an addiction. If you or your partner have been through a difficult period it could be easy to turn to a substance to help relieve the pain. The more you use the substance the more resentment and anger can build in a relationship. This is something that needs to be addressed before it becomes a life threatening issue.
Trust
When first together you only have eyes for each other but over the years there are a number of reasons why this may change. Whether it be a new co-workers, a chance in employment often brings excitement and of course new relationships with it. It is easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment when you are spending all your days with someone you find attractive or who is giving you attention which may be lacking at home. Losing that trust between partners is hard to build again so more often than not professional help should be sought.
Changing Values/Life Changing Events
The stress a life changing event can put a person under is tremendous. This could be a death of a family member, loss of job, house move, redundancy etc. A lot of people think they need to control the situation and work through it themselves, not wanting to burden their partner but also not realising that this could be the perfect opportunity to get even closer. Working together to overcome the situation instead of pulling apart. Marriage is hard and really does need working on on a constant basis. You wouldn’t treat your friends the way you treat your significant other at times, those friends would tell you exactly how it was. So why do we feel the need to do this to the person we are the closest to. Talking things over and keeping track of issues until they are resolved is a great way to make sure there are no underlying unsolved issues.
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There is always a solution to problems and if you can talk it through with someone or gain free advice it has to be worth the time it takes to log on and discuss. You entered into the marriage with the intentions of it being forever and whatever you need to do to make that a reality should be at least attempted. You owe it to not only your partner but yourself too.